There is a belief that fat people are easygoing and kind by itself while thin people are angry and bad. And I always wonder why do people think so? Because my own experience says totally opposite point of view. That is why I decided to represent my experience to people who read my blog.
Firstly, my experience of friendship with fat people (sorry if it seems to you rude but lets to call things by their own words) started when I was at school in grade 7. And I swear I'd never thought anything bad about fat people. Honestly I am the person who consider that all people are equal and should be treated equally.
So lets go back to my experience.
Before I went to grade 7 all my friends were thin and looked like me. However when I started to study in 7th grade I was friends with a girl who had overweight. I was a confident teenager with many friends and when she came in our class I notice that she was shy and even closed. So I decided to do my best and make her more sociable. Well it wasn't so easy work and took some time, but eventually we became best friends. I found that under her shyness and closeness has been hidden a girl with an interesting deep inner world. In other words I was happy knowing that my belief that appearance doesn't really matter proved to be correct.
But over time the more closer we became the more I noticed how strong the complex for her was her body and everything associated with being overweight. Insomuch that she thought people always make fun of her or suddenly she could begin to lower girls who's body she envied. Sorry for the the frankness. Then she started to lower me supposedly a joke. But I continued to be friends with her. Next she switched to another school and I didn't see her for 2 years cause she said without a reason that we cant be friends anymore.
After 2 years my parents wanted me to study there too,so I went to school where she was studying already. We weren't friends already nevertheless she at least greeted me meeting. At the same time in the new school girls from my class treated me with no friendliness. For the whole year I was trying to become friends with them but things didn't go and I kept wonder why? Terribly worried because I have always had many friends. It turned out that this fat girl told all my class something bad about me! I was shocked when one girl eventually told me this. I was and still thinking WTF????? What I did to her? When I told it to my mom, she says that may be its because she envied me so much. But I don't know, I just was shocked.
In addition I began to notice that in the majority fat people are shy and closed at best, or at worst are angry and resentful. They see everything awry, if you smile to them they think you make fun of them and so on. Their complexes don't let them to be more optimistic and to get rid of assumptions.
And I don't want to hurt them, I just want to explain and make it clear that nobody cares how do you look like (except your boyfriends and girlfriends). The only thing which make you attractive or not attractive person is your inner world, something what you can offer to people and share with them.
P.s I have some friends with overweight who doesn't care about it and everybody likes them because they are confident, smart, funny, kind and what is important cheerful and thankful people! Praise them cause it is a great job;)))))))))) love u guys!
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